Hush-hush takes a stand

 So this one may be a little harder to write but lets see what we can do. Body image is so important to people in this day n age. If you dont look a certain way you get picked on. If you don't know how to talk well you get picked on. If you dont wear the right clothes you get picked on. Its sad but yet so true.

It took me the longest time to start liking myself and not really caring what others thought. I still have my not so great days but they dont last. It took me going to therapy to understand about self respect, self worth and self love. I was trying to learn this stuff at an older age which as you know didnt go so well in the beginning.

I had to learn if I want others to like me then I must first like myself. If I want others to respect me then I must first respect myself. If I wanted others to value me then I must first learn to value myself.

This process was not easy to say the least. It took me learning what love is, and today I still question it but its better than before. I had to talk bout why I did the things I did, not just talk but explain them. Ya know get to the root. All the things I did acholol, sex, driving, money, initating things just to get someone to like me. It was a cover-up because I didnt love myself and I didnt know how.

I am learning that people will always give you the bad things, and thats ok they are allowed. Its up to me if I want to take on what they say and then change me. The problem is once I change one thing then I find myself changing eveything else just to fit that image they have of you. I did that for the longest time and fought hard to get to point in my life where they may say these things doesnt mean I have to take it on. I appreciate that you are that comfortable with me to say those things to me.

You need to understand that while you want to change the things that others say you should, you have now stopped being you and just lost who you are. Change the things you can and learn to love the things you can not change. My therapist would be very happy with me with my latest statement because I didnt love me, i didnt even like me but yet I didnt know me. I still have my days where I dont like me and thats ok. I have other days where i love me and it shows in my smile, laughter and walk. It shows when I talk with others. Then there are other days where I dont evem think bout it.

We as women need to do a better job of lifting others up. We as women need to learn that while you may be good at thing and not so great at another its ok. The knowledge you gave could really help others. Ladies quit holding back. Ladies help those around you reach their potential, who knows you may even help yourself in the process.

This one took me longer to write as there was some medical issues that came up. I will try to do better next time......